Anyone who has read the masterpiece of a novel "Love in the Time of Cholera" must know the centre piece of the story - true love survives, the story ends with two separated lovers getting back together at a ripe old age. It sounds all nice and romantic, but is that how relationships are today? Love in the time of cholera was one thing, but love in the time of Whatsapp is another. We don't have cholera as much as the times Mr Marquez wrote in and we definitely don't have the kind of relationships either. What we do have are confused people wondering why relationships are so hard to find and keep. Here is my post on what they need to understand to make it big in a relationship today.
Lifestyles have changed, fashion has changed, foods have changed, incomes have changed and on that note love and relationships have changed too. Here's a look at some of the biggest changes in relationships today.
The hunter gatherer roles have merged - everyone does everything
In the history of humankind, it is said that women were more of gatherers who stayed closer home to gather berries and fruits while taking care of the home. The men in turn went out hunting for game. This is the reason women have arms that tend to curve out when they place it parallel to their bodies. It helps in gathering.
This does not hold good in relationships today. Women go to work (hunt is the parallel from our ancestors world for work today) and there are many a case of men being stay at home dads (the role of gatherer in the prehistoric world). There is no sex based role classifications today and for a relationship to be successful partners need to realize this.
There is no man of the house
The caveman of prehistoric times is shown as a club wielding brute who beats the bonkers out of the woman he fancies and just drags her home if he liked it. Times have changed. Forget clouting a woman, even holding a club can get you into a lot of trouble .
The term "man of the house" is redundant. There is no man of the house, both in its literal and metaphorical sense. Both partners are educated, independent and ambitious. Love in the time of Whatsapp is more about partnership and collaboration, everyone is the leader and everyone is the follower!
Its not about money. Its not about love either. What the hell is it about?
Its about the sum total of all things put together.Unlike marriages and relationships of the prehistoric times, men and women of today look for much more than sex, and stability alone respectively.They want shared romance, they want new experiences, they want long vacations and they also want cuddles and of course sex.
The sum total of our past generations expectation in a relationships is only a small part of today's expectations. So wake up to the fact and start acting accordingly if you want your relationship to blossom.
Community out, couples in.
In the Indian context this can be sacrilegious, but whats got to be said has to be said. Unlike our forefathers who lived in communities today's generation wants out. They want autonomy, they want to be on their own. Our prehistoric ancestors had to have grandmothers to take care of the children and grandfathers to guard the cave as the men went hunting and the women went gathering. Well, we have nannies now for the kids and sophisticated alarms for security and they don't advise on how to cook or how to dress to work. So today's relationships lean towards couples living by themselves without either ones parents in the picture.
In Indian way of life this is almost a crime, but times are changing, you'd have to too.
So our prehistoric ancestors would have a hard time finding and keeping love in today's world, and if you don't realize these facts and adapt, you're going to have to have to discover time travel.
Lifestyles have changed, fashion has changed, foods have changed, incomes have changed and on that note love and relationships have changed too. Here's a look at some of the biggest changes in relationships today.
The hunter gatherer roles have merged - everyone does everything
In the history of humankind, it is said that women were more of gatherers who stayed closer home to gather berries and fruits while taking care of the home. The men in turn went out hunting for game. This is the reason women have arms that tend to curve out when they place it parallel to their bodies. It helps in gathering.
This does not hold good in relationships today. Women go to work (hunt is the parallel from our ancestors world for work today) and there are many a case of men being stay at home dads (the role of gatherer in the prehistoric world). There is no sex based role classifications today and for a relationship to be successful partners need to realize this.
There is no man of the house
The caveman of prehistoric times is shown as a club wielding brute who beats the bonkers out of the woman he fancies and just drags her home if he liked it. Times have changed. Forget clouting a woman, even holding a club can get you into a lot of trouble .
The term "man of the house" is redundant. There is no man of the house, both in its literal and metaphorical sense. Both partners are educated, independent and ambitious. Love in the time of Whatsapp is more about partnership and collaboration, everyone is the leader and everyone is the follower!
Its not about money. Its not about love either. What the hell is it about?
Its about the sum total of all things put together.Unlike marriages and relationships of the prehistoric times, men and women of today look for much more than sex, and stability alone respectively.They want shared romance, they want new experiences, they want long vacations and they also want cuddles and of course sex.
The sum total of our past generations expectation in a relationships is only a small part of today's expectations. So wake up to the fact and start acting accordingly if you want your relationship to blossom.
Community out, couples in.
In the Indian context this can be sacrilegious, but whats got to be said has to be said. Unlike our forefathers who lived in communities today's generation wants out. They want autonomy, they want to be on their own. Our prehistoric ancestors had to have grandmothers to take care of the children and grandfathers to guard the cave as the men went hunting and the women went gathering. Well, we have nannies now for the kids and sophisticated alarms for security and they don't advise on how to cook or how to dress to work. So today's relationships lean towards couples living by themselves without either ones parents in the picture.
In Indian way of life this is almost a crime, but times are changing, you'd have to too.
So our prehistoric ancestors would have a hard time finding and keeping love in today's world, and if you don't realize these facts and adapt, you're going to have to have to discover time travel.
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