Dear Daughter,
You will be born into a world that would start expecting your life to be perfect - perfect only in each of the expecting persons own terms. That is the kind of pressure you would face. You could be pampered by your father and your mother and the close family that surrounds you, but remember all of them expect a lot from you. Sometimes it may drive you crazy; you may even wonder if all of us are worth the trouble.
You will be in a world that treats women as beautification items, as accessories in the fabric of society. You would be judged by your skin complexion, your hair style and your body weight and shape. You would be treated extra well, do not fall for it - it is a ruse to cover up the ill treatment being meted out to you.
If you are born into a family that is facing hardships, brace yourself little one, you may be sold off, or killed. Not that a rich family does not have its share of woes.
When you go to school, while boys would be allowed to go play after study hours you would be asked to help out with the household chores. If you ask why, you would be lectured on how you need to be a faithful and obedient wife. You may wonder why are boys not groomed to be "faithful and obedient" but no one would care to hear your opinion.
When you go to college, the boys will whistle and bully you in the name of ragging. When you share this with your mother, she would say that you are the cause, you should have dressed more conservatively, you should have been more silent and so on.
When your parents decide when its time for you to be married, you will be pushed off to the best bidder. Your wants and needs are not important, all that matters is that you be happy and your parents feel that you are "safe". Happiness for you, is not of importance to them, or to anybody for that matter.
When you get attacked and raped, men will say that you dressed provocatively and you wanted it.
Such is the world you are coming to...
How many daughters will have to be sacrificed until change comes?
You should be the change, my daughter!
Stand up for what is right. Answer only your conscience. In a world where right and wrong is only differentiated by perspective, you decide what is right and wrong. When you let the world decide it for you, they take advantage of your naivety.
Anyone who evaluates you based on your physical appearance needn't be a part of your life. And any man who says that your work is in the kitchen, does not deserve you.What he needs is a cook!
Any man who makes you feel less important is not man enough for you, he is trying to put you down to make himself feel good, throw him out of your life. If your mother-in-law wants only daughters, ask her to go get one for herself.
Faithfulness and obedience are not traits applicable for you alone. It is reserved for those who deserve it from you.
"Won't I be all alone alienating the world if I follow all this?" you may ask...
I will always be there for you my daughter!
With love
Appa
You will be born into a world that would start expecting your life to be perfect - perfect only in each of the expecting persons own terms. That is the kind of pressure you would face. You could be pampered by your father and your mother and the close family that surrounds you, but remember all of them expect a lot from you. Sometimes it may drive you crazy; you may even wonder if all of us are worth the trouble.
You will be in a world that treats women as beautification items, as accessories in the fabric of society. You would be judged by your skin complexion, your hair style and your body weight and shape. You would be treated extra well, do not fall for it - it is a ruse to cover up the ill treatment being meted out to you.
If you are born into a family that is facing hardships, brace yourself little one, you may be sold off, or killed. Not that a rich family does not have its share of woes.
When you go to school, while boys would be allowed to go play after study hours you would be asked to help out with the household chores. If you ask why, you would be lectured on how you need to be a faithful and obedient wife. You may wonder why are boys not groomed to be "faithful and obedient" but no one would care to hear your opinion.
When you go to college, the boys will whistle and bully you in the name of ragging. When you share this with your mother, she would say that you are the cause, you should have dressed more conservatively, you should have been more silent and so on.
When your parents decide when its time for you to be married, you will be pushed off to the best bidder. Your wants and needs are not important, all that matters is that you be happy and your parents feel that you are "safe". Happiness for you, is not of importance to them, or to anybody for that matter.
When you get attacked and raped, men will say that you dressed provocatively and you wanted it.
Such is the world you are coming to...
How many daughters will have to be sacrificed until change comes?
You should be the change, my daughter!
Stand up for what is right. Answer only your conscience. In a world where right and wrong is only differentiated by perspective, you decide what is right and wrong. When you let the world decide it for you, they take advantage of your naivety.
Anyone who evaluates you based on your physical appearance needn't be a part of your life. And any man who says that your work is in the kitchen, does not deserve you.What he needs is a cook!
Any man who makes you feel less important is not man enough for you, he is trying to put you down to make himself feel good, throw him out of your life. If your mother-in-law wants only daughters, ask her to go get one for herself.
Faithfulness and obedience are not traits applicable for you alone. It is reserved for those who deserve it from you.
"Won't I be all alone alienating the world if I follow all this?" you may ask...
I will always be there for you my daughter!
With love
Appa
Love you my friend! Wonderful!!!
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