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1. I was so busy I didn't find time to message or call even once today - Even Barack Obama, Kamal Hassan, why even your "busy" boss will have, or rather, make the time to communicate with their loved ones. If you are in love and your partner says this often, lets say about 7 days in a row - be sure, there is something or someone wrong in your life.
2. When you don't get some. - Its an open statement. "Some" could be replaced with sex, heavy petting, kiss on the cheek, holding hands etc. Basically something that you had been given earlier and now its in hard supply. Why? Simple. For a person not in love, a caring touch that reiterates the liking is a wrong signal to send out when the intention is to end the relationship.
3. You find it hard to keep the your partner happy - When you start finding in increasingly difficult to make your partner smile. Things that gave them joy earlier are painful now. When you are confused and doing over time just to figure out what will bring those smiles back - there is an issue.
4. When spending time together isn't exciting anymore - When you are all excited about visiting her/him after some time apart or you are jumping in joy about the trip you're going to take together and he/she dunks your sweet anticipation in a bucket of freezing water. Well, its time to move on buddy.
5. When saying I love you is a one way statement - When your partner suddenly finds it hard to say those three words, when those words gets stuck at the back of their throat for fear of prolonging something that they want to get done with. Set sail my friend, catch the next boat out.
6. When the fights start being really destructive - Couples fight all the time. But when these fights become poisonous to the level of demeaning the partner or causing hurt which goes without apologies there is something wrong. And when these fights are the only form of communication happening, then it definitely is over.
7. When it feels strange to meet - After some time of being away like in a long distance relationship, when you meet again and it feels like you don't know this person anymore. If it feels like meeting for the first time all over again, I think its a sign.
8. When mutually enjoyed activities are no fun anymore - Lets say you guys loved going to the beach. And then all of a sudden for your partner, going to the beach was too much of a task, it was too far away, it was too windy and all those stupid lame reasons pop up, steel up your heart my friend.
9. When they don't care anymore - Lets say your partner hated your smoking habit. One day they suddenly stop caring about it. They don't ask you about it anymore and you are confused to hell about this attitude. The truth of the matter is this. Only a person who cares about you will ever ask you to let go of some unhealthy issue of yours. In fact I always say this, its not hatred that confirms its over, it's indifference that is the true indicator.
10. When you seem to be doing everything - When you start noticing that you are the one calling, you are the one patching up,you are the one that always gives up, you are the one even trying to keep the relationship alive. Trust me, if its a relationship that both partners value, without a doubt both would make it work, not one of them alone. And so that's a sign as well.
While all these are signs, its is obviously not strict rules nor are they certified by anyone. They are not exhaustive either, just a few pearls of wisdom collected from personal experiences of a lot of people around me and of course my own as well.
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